Our Goal at Oasis

At Oasis, our goal is to support men in breaking free from pornography and its harmful effects on their relationships and mental health. Pornography distorts expectations around sex, intimacy, and physical appearance, leading men to unrealistic ideas about what women should look like and what romantic relationships should be. This can create loneliness and prevent men from pursuing genuine, in-person connections. We aim to help men build healthier, more authentic relationships by moving beyond the influence of pornography and focusing on real, meaningful connections with others.

The Pornography Crisis

  • Usage

    90% of college students say they've watched porn in their lifetime, with 40% saying they watch it weekly. 68% of men on my college campus say they currently watch porn with 80% of this group saying they watch it multiple times a week.

  • Addiction

    While men are 20% more likely to watch than women, still 11% of men and 3% of women consider themselves addicted. Many use it as a crutch when they are lonely and feel they can not make the neccessary in person emotional connections.

12 years old

is the average age a child gets introduced to pornography. Starting in just middle school, porn begins to distort ones' perceptions of relationships, intimacy, and consent, leading to unrealistic expectations and, in some cases, harmful behaviors.

TESTIMONIALS

  • "I don’t watch porn, but I think it has given my partners unrealistic and inaccurate ideas about sex, relationships, and what women want/appreciate." - 21F

  • "It's prevented us from having relationship that dig deeper than the superficial level. Men who consistently watch porn are, in my experience, incapable of seeing me as anything more than a body." - 22F

  • "Porn can give men unrealistic, rude, hurtful views on sexual things." - 21F

  • “I felt like intimacy wasn’t real between us and he wouldn’t stop watching it.” - 19F

  • “Yes, I will end a relationship if my partner watches it." - 21F

  • “Porn was a major addiction in my life. 2-3x a day. Finally quit and my expectations of women, views of relationships, and a new relationship with God completely changed my thoughts on intimacy." - 22M